Dating and living with HIV

Dating can be hard for just about everyone, and dating while positive can pose some unique challenges. People often wonder things like:

  • Should I disclose my status in my online profile?
  • When’s the right time for me to tell dates or hookups that I’m positive?
  • How do I tell a guy I want to date or hook up with that I’m HIV positive?
  • How do I prevent giving the virus to an HIV-negative sex partner? (And what can he do to protect himself?)

Here are some articles and websites to help you think about these questions.

Positively Dating

Positively Dating is a blog written by a 30-something gay man living in New York City. The author chronicles the good, the bad and the ugly related to his dating life in order to spark a dialogue about HIV and relationships and to reduce stigma.
positivelydating.com

How to Date an HIV-Positive Guy

HIV Equal offers five tips to prevent HIV from interfering with shared chemistry in a budding relationship.
HIVequal.org: How to Date an HIV-positive Guy

Dating Positively from Out.com

Out.com offers the ‘rules’ and ‘reactions’ to dating openly in the 21st century in this article chronicling one man’s search for love as an HIV-positive gay man.
Out.com: Dating Positively

Dating While HIV-Positive: Knowing What You’re Worth

Advocate.com shares one man’s experience dating as an HIV-positive gay man and how he learned to renegotiate his self-worth with confidence after seroconverting.
Advocate.com: Dating While HIV-positive: Knowing What You’re Worth

When One Partner is HIV+

AIDS.gov offers tips and information about dating when one partner is HIV-positive and the other is HIV-negative. Learn about effective ways to reduce the chance of transmission like using condoms correctly and consistently, staying on treatment, and using PrEP.
AIDS.gov: When One Partner is HIV+

What is serosorting?

Serosorting is when gay men choose only sex partners who have the same HIV status they do in an attempt to prevent HIV. Serosorting is not a guaranteed strategy to prevent HIV transmission, but a lot of guys use it. This article describes a 2013 Seattle study that found that 40% of HIV-negative men and 25% of HIV-positive men serosort.
aidsmeds.com: Two in Five Gay Men ‘Serosort’ in an Attempt to Prevent HIV