Dating and living with HIV

Dating can be hard for just about everyone, and dating while positive can pose some unique challenges. People often wonder things like:

  • Should I disclose my status in my online profile?
  • When’s the right time for me to tell dates or hookups that I’m positive?
  • How do I tell a guy I want to date or hook up with that I’m HIV positive?
  • How do I prevent giving the virus to an HIV-negative sex partner? (And what can he do to protect himself?)

Here are some articles and websites to help you think about these questions.

Positively Dating

Positively Dating is a blog written by a 30-something gay man living in New York City. The author chronicles the good, the bad and the ugly related to his dating life in order to spark a dialogue about HIV and relationships and to reduce stigma.

How to Date an HIV-Positive Guy

HIV Equal offers five tips to prevent HIV from interfering with shared chemistry in a budding relationship. How to Date an HIV-positive Guy

Dating Positively from offers the ‘rules’ and ‘reactions’ to dating openly in the 21st century in this article chronicling one man’s search for love as an HIV-positive gay man. Dating Positively

Dating While HIV-Positive: Knowing What You’re Worth shares one man’s experience dating as an HIV-positive gay man and how he learned to renegotiate his self-worth with confidence after seroconverting. Dating While HIV-positive: Knowing What You’re Worth

When One Partner is HIV+ offers tips and information about dating when one partner is HIV-positive and the other is HIV-negative. Learn about effective ways to reduce the chance of transmission like using condoms correctly and consistently, staying on treatment, and using PrEP. When One Partner is HIV+

What is serosorting?

Serosorting is when gay men choose only sex partners who have the same HIV status they do in an attempt to prevent HIV. Serosorting is not a guaranteed strategy to prevent HIV transmission, but a lot of guys use it. This article describes a 2013 Seattle study that found that 40% of HIV-negative men and 25% of HIV-positive men serosort. Two in Five Gay Men ‘Serosort’ in an Attempt to Prevent HIV